EGO AND PRIDE: HOW DOES IT REALLY EFFECT OUR LIVES?

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The Quiet War: How Ego and Pride Unravel Relationships

Ego rarely enters the room shouting. Pride doesn’t slam doors. They sit beside us, calmly, and whisper: “You’re right. Don’t bend. Don’t blink first.”

They don’t wreck relationships in one big moment. They starve them, one withheld apology at a time.

Ego Sleeps Between Us

Ego doesn’t shout.

It whispers from your side of the bed:

“Don’t be the first to turn over.”

Pride folds the pillow like a wall ,and says:

“Let them reach first.”

You both lie there,hearts like radio towers trying to send a signal

through silence thick as concrete.

The cost of ego is never loud.

It’s subtle:

• A hand not held.

• A truth swallowed.

• A moment missed because no one blinked first.

Pride doesn’t explode.

It evaporates what could have been

before it even breathes.

Love, If It Could Speak

Love would crawl barefoot over every bruise and say:

“I don’t care who started it. I care who ends it.”

Love doesn’t ask for the crown.

It kneels in the mud and says:

“Let’s begin again.”

“LOVE IS STRONGER THAN PRIDE” – Marquis De Sade 

The river surrenders itself in order to be part of the ocean…Wood burns itself in order to give us heat

Everything in this universe is offering themselves up to others. The trees offer us their fruits, the sun gives us its sunlight, the moon and the stars brighten the nights and even sheep’s, goats, fishes, and chickens are giving up their lives for us.

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All we need to do is give back love to others, even if it’s just a smile which can makes a big difference in someone else’s life. It’s all about offering our selves selflessly, truly, and whole-heartedly. Things in life will change dramatically. When we follow our pride we become selfish and isolated. Slowly, slowly we go further from our loved ones and we don’t even realize until we loose everything we care most about.

So what should we do to keep the flame alive?

That’s a million dollars question… Relationships stand on respect, compromise and communication these are the 3 key factors in every successful relationship. There is a saying that “even a mother doesn’t feed milk to her child until he/she cries” Which essentially means that we have to express and communicate our emotional desires.

“MOST RELATIONSHIPS FAIL BECAUSE COUPLES FIGHT WITH PRIDE MORE THAN THEY WORK WITH LOVE” – Anonymous

Don’t ignore the little issues, they are like seeds and once they grow they will become a tree. Don’t let your pride be a wall between you and your loved ones. A friend of mine was having some trouble with his girlfriend; he was telling me “I’m not going to call her because she is going to think that I’m weak”. Yet he was suffering at the same time. When I spoke to his girlfriend she had expressed the exact same sentiments yet she too decided not to communicate her feelings. What is stopping them from communicating their actual feelings? Is this a game? Does one really need to win and lose? That is a good example of having your pride and ego get in the way of your relationship. From a distance everything may seem to appear, as it’s a non-issue, however it’s best to remember that a seed has to be buried in the ground in order to get a strong tree. In other words, we have to drop down our unseen walls of our pride.

My Mother used to say that ,sometimes we have to open the knot with our teeth, the one we tied with our own hands. We forget that pride is the first thing that goes when we are suffering.

“THE OLDER YOU GET, THE MORE YOU REALIZE THAT IT ISN’T ABOUT THE MATERIAL THINGS OR PRIDE OR EGO. IT’S ABOUT OUR HEARTS & WHO THEY BEAT FOR …” – Anonymous

Ego is the mask we wear ,pride is the armor we build. Both are rooted in fear — fear of being seen, fear of being wrong, fear of being vulnerable. In a world that glorifies self-image and competition, we often confuse pride for strength and ego for confidence. But in truth, they are the very things that separate us from our deeper self, from each other,and from Life itself.

Real strength isn’t in the unbreakable stance,it’s in the willingness to kneel beside someone hurting and say, “Let’s try again.”

It’s saying, “I was wrong,” without shrinking.

It’s asking, “Are you okay?” even when they made the first mistake.

Because the truth is: love doesn’t survive inside fortresses.

It lives in the space where ego steps aside, and humility walks in.

So next time silence grows heavy, or your chest tightens at the thought of being the first to reach out—remember this:

That discomfort you feel? That’s not weakness.

That’s your heart trying to grow.

YAZ

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143 responses to “EGO AND PRIDE: HOW DOES IT REALLY EFFECT OUR LIVES?”

  2. Pride is like hard, untilled ground where nothing but weeds can grow. It’s the modern version of self-esteem— puffed up, feel good, nothingness and the isolation that you write about. I think love and the struggle of relationship is the only way to break up the hard ground and give character a chance to grow into something better than narcissism. Human beings are made for relationship and without it, we never reach our full purpose.

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    Thanks for sharing this interesting article. Ego and pride are indeed two destructive life elements.

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  24. What a profound post .. Indeed Pride and Ego often go hand in hand, while love will always reach out if true. to bridge the gap and heal the wound.

    I love what you said here..
    ” Because the truth is: love doesn’t survive inside fortresses.
    It lives in the space where ego steps aside, and humility walks in. ”

    Excellently said .

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